Eating Disorders Hurt by Jordan Rasmussen

                Pressures in life can present themselves in a number of ways. Sometimes we feel stress because media images and our own bodies just don’t match up. This affects our view of ourselves—our self esteem.

                Anorexia Nervosa, Bulimia Nervosa, and Binge Eating Disorder affects up to 24 million people in the United States every year (National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA), n.d.).   If you have suffered from an eating disorder, you are far from alone.  If you are at risk or think somebody is experiencing problems with an eating disorder, you should seek professional help. 

vWebmd.com lists symptoms of anorexia and bulimia:

Ø  Skipping meals or obsessive dieting

Ø  Feelings of guilt in association with exercising or eating

Ø  Insomnia

Ø  Loss in hair and nail quality

Ø  Damaged teeth quality

(Jaret, n.d.)

vDr. William Kernan of Columbia University Medical Center provides a 10-step plan for helping friends and family who suffer from eating disorders.

Ø  1.) Keep an open mind:  If you think somebody may be suffering from an eating disorder, approach them privately and allow for you both to talk without being rushed.

Ø  2.) Clarify your role as somebody who cares and wants to help.

Ø  3.) Speak privately

Ø  4.) Avoid making the other person feel judged by reflecting concern for specific behaviors

Ø  5.) Avoid “You” statements and try to reflect your observations by telling them, “I noticed” instead of, “you have.”

Ø  6.) Remain supportive and a good outlet

Ø  7.) Stress your concern for your friend/family

Ø  8.) Avoid conflict when discussing these topics as conflict can result in resistance to open dialogue

Ø  9.) Emphasize physical and mental health rather than weight, image, or morality.

Ø  10.) Do your homework and be careful not to jump to conclusions.

(Kernan, W., Dr., n.d.)

Spring Always Comes by the Rev. Tim Bauer, Lost and Found Ministry Moorhead

“I just want this winter to be over!” If we’ve said it once, we’ve said it a hundred times this winter. Amazingly, the weather does change, but not because of our loud voices. But because spring always comes. Seasons always change. Regardless of human desires or complaints.

“Don’t push the river, it flows by itself,” states a Chinese proverb. We have grown accustomed to having whatever we want, whenever we want it. Our contentment is fleeting. Instead of insisting on change, we can choose to embrace what is occurring. Did you see the sun dogs the other day, surrounding the sun? Did you hear the crunch of the snow as you walked down the path?

As the Serenity Prayer reads, “Living one day at a time; enjoying one moment at a time; accepting hardships as the pathway to peace…” May the changes occurring around you and within you produce serenity for this day—including serenity in another day of being clean and sober.

Visit Lost and Found Ministry at 111 7th St. So., in Moorhead, MN 56560 or call 218-287-2089, www.lostandfoundministry.org.

Memory Trees and Song Birds by the Rev. Tim Bauer, Lost and Found Ministry Moorhead

A Chinese proverb reads, “Keep a green tree in your heart and perhaps a singing bird will come.” Many of us have friends or family members whose lives have been lost to addiction, and we long for that singing bird to come again and lighten our hearts and memories.

Maybe it was a car accident while driving drunk, hepatitis from using, or –whatever the final cause, death from addiction took its toll. Are you looking for that singing bird to make a home in your heart? Spend a moment at Lost and Found Ministry’s Memory Tree to honor your loved one’s memory and pray for those who remain behind.  As you pause to reflect and honor, we also welcome you to talk to one of our counselors. 

From February 13 until March 20 (1st day of spring), a Memory Tree will be hosted at Lost and Found Ministry at 111 7th St S in Moorhead, MN. Stop by and write the name of a loved one on a heart and place the heart on the Memory Tree. Staff at Lost and Found will keep your loved one, as well as those whose lives were touched by that person, in our prayers.

Please come to Lost and Found Ministry over the next month and start growing your own green tree in your heart so that singing bird will find a lovely new home. Want to talk to one of our counselors? Give us a call at 218-287-2089.

Give Yourself a Gift by the Rev. Tim Bauer at Lost and Found Ministry

According to Forrest Gump, “Life is like a box of chocolates,” or, on Pinterest, “Chocolate covers a multitude of woes.”

Valentine’s Day is a special time when many of us give chocolates to express any number of sentiments. Within each box, there seems to be that enticing bon bon that also yields an “ugh!” at first bite. The sweet cover of chocolate tried hard to disguise the not-so-delicious inside.

This is often like our feelings and emotions. A lot of them are glossed over and covered up. We believe it’s easier to live with pretense than to be honest with others and ourselves. “You never know what you’re gonna get,” may be true for Forrest’s mama, but you don’t have to live in that reality.

Give yourself a gift: honestly express appreciation, sorrow, commitment, displeasure, and hope. These are life-giving gifts you can give to yourself and to others. Living in relationships that are trustworthy and candid establishes foundations that withstand the challenges of life.

This year express yourself in a straightforward manner. The surprise you receive will be a solid, fulfilling, enhancing relationship with yourself and with those with whom you live—calorie free!

How to Be Super Grandma

Jordan Maahs

It’s a bird, it’s a plane, it’s… Grandma? While the idea of you being a super hero might be a little farfetched, that’s exactly how your grandchild is likely to see you. In Dr. Lillian Carson’s book “Essential Grandparent”, we see highlights of a few superpowers grandparents can utilize to really help their grand-kids to succeed.

  • Offer Wisdom, Gently. You have so many great pieces of insight to give to your grandchildren. Knowing how and when to give that insight is crucial; if they feel like you’re meddling, they won’t be interested in what you have to say.
  • Be the tradition maker. Family is an important force in a young person’s life, and tradition helps bring family together. Fire up the lefse griddle. Hide Easter eggs. Start a Christmas Ritual. Make Cookies, memories, and traditions. You’ll keep family close in a way no one else can.
  • Stay Rooted. You’re a model to your grandchildren in everything that you do. By remaining in God’s word daily, praying continually, you’re sending a powerful message.

“Grandchildren are the crown of the aged…”

Says Proverbs 17:6. Learn more about grand parenting and other topics, by checking out a book from Lost and Found Ministries.

Healthy Eating

Jordan Maahs

I remember standing in front of the bathroom mirror and marveling at my father shaving his face. Someday I’ll shave “just like dad” I thought. I would often stand on my tip toes, reaching into the medicine cabinet to take my toy electric razor. I remember feeling warm and happy, standing tall because I was “just like dad.”

Unfortunately, this principle can play out in less healthy ways too. The way that adults and parents eat and treat food directly affects children. Avoid setting the wrong type of example by following these tips:

  • Make Dinner Time Equal Table Time. Sharing a meal is a great way to connect with the family. Eating with the family ensures that no one mindlessly munches the minutes away, and adds some much needed down time to the day
  • Write it Down. Often, we know we want to make a change, but we still find ourselves falling into the same patterns. Writing down specifically what needs to change can be the difference from fat to fit.
  • Move Together. Pick something that YOU like to do, and invite the family along. Family bike rides with little ones are likely to turn into lifelong habits, long after their training wheels are gone.
  • Take a Look, Grab a Book. With so many resources available at Lost and Found Ministry, there is always more you can learn to keep your house healthy. Check out The American Heart association’s booklet “Nutritious Nibbles” or one of dozens of books on the topic.

For more information on issues like this and others, Visit Us at Lost and Found Ministry, Or checkout a book for free using our Online Library Tool.

Buy One, Get One (That You Don’t Need)

 

Jordan Maahs

When I hear the word “addiction”, my mind jumps to images of drug abuse, and alcoholism. Sometimes however, we may forget that addiction can take many forms, whether it be eating, drinking, smoking, or even shopping.  One third of Americans say they know someone who is addicted to shopping. It’s likely that a shopping addict is your neighbor, your spouse, coworker, or even you.

Can you identify with some of these warning signs of a shopping addiction, or do you know someone who does?

  • I often buy things I can’t afford
  • I feel guilty when I shop
  • My closet is full of unused things
  • I tend to hide purchases from my loved ones
  • I buy things to make myself feel better
  • I’m in deep debt
  • I feel out of control

If any of these describe you or someone you know, consider checking out a book about the subject, like “Consuming Passions” by Ellen Mohr Catalano and Nina Sonenberg, or “Emotional Spending” by L. Marie Dubuque. You can find these by visiting Lost and Found Ministry’s Library page at:

111 7th St. So., Moorhead, MN 56560
218-287-2089
www.lostandfoundministry.org/library.html

Dealing With Tough Times

Jordan Maahs

Dr. Seuss once said:

“I learned there are troubles of more than one kind. Some come from ahead, others come from behind. But I’ve bought a big bat. I’m all ready, you see. Now my troubles are going to have trouble with me.”

What Dr. Seuss is talking about is adversity. Unfortunately, it is something that often can’t be overcome with a children’s book and clever rhymes. Even so, this message really resonates with me, as I have stressed over this week as my obligations continue to pile up around me. Perhaps for you, adversity is a terminal family member, an addiction that you’re struggling with, or the addiction of a family member. Perhaps it is a strained relationship or a broken home.

Whatever your problems today, James writes this TO YOU.

“Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness.” – James 1:2-4

James trusts in God When things get tough, and never gives up. Some other great resources on this subject can be found at Lost and Found Ministry Library, including “Help For the Hard Times” by Hipp Earl, and dozens of other books, videos, and audio on the subject. Come check out a book today. Dr. Seuss would be proud of you.

111 7th St. So., Moorhead, MN 56560
218-287-2089
www.lostandfoundministry.org

Jail Chaplains, Jesus, and Addictions

Thank you to Gerri Leach and the Jail Chaplains for inviting several of us to the Cass County Jail for lunch and a first-hand hearing of how God is changing lives for good through their ministry at the jail.

What I also heard is the ongoing devastation of addictions on precious lives. Drug and alcohol addiction causes so much pain in every way. Years of carrying the burden of struggling with an addiction yielded arrests, lost jobs, no place to live because you’re a felon, and children growing up without moms or dads.

Yet, we also saw so clearly that there is hope! Thank you to Sheriff Laney and the staff at the Cass Co. Jail along with the close working relationship with the Jail Chaplains program and volunteers for hanging in there with those who pass through the jail. And, for giving of yourselves to help others find peace and change through faith.Lost and Found Ministry supports your efforts and are here for families who don’t know where to turn. We offer help for those lost in another’s addiction. Call us at 218-287-2089 before it gets so bad that the law must intervene–or lives are lost.

 

Abraham Lincoln is Positive About This

Jordan Maahs

Abraham Lincoln once said,

“We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.”

While most days we know this to be true, it can often be a challenge to make that frame of reference our own.

In Norman Vincent Peale’s Book, available for online checkout at the Lost and Found Library, He talks not only about why positive thinking is important, but also, how we can make positive thinking possible in our own lives. Norman promises a guide on how to:

  • Break the worry habit
  • Develop the power to reach your goals
  • How to build determination
  • And a lot more.

To read more, check out “The Power of Positive Thinking” from the Lost and Found Ministry Library, or check out one of a dozen DVD’s, books, and CD’s about the topic of positive thinking. You can be positive that it’s worth looking into.